The Illusion Of Control
Are you walking on eggshells?
When you grow up in chaos, you develop a skillset to help you maintain the illusion of control. Some of you may have become hyper aware of your surroundings and the people around you. You learned to study faces, energy, and behavior. You know what mom sounds like when she’s had too much to drink or what dad’s face looks like right before he snaps. You think, “if I can anticipate and plan for their moods, everything will be ok and I will be safe.”
You attempt to manage their emotional experience so that there are no surprises. But, it doesn’t always work and it ends up poisoning potential healthy relationships.
This email is for Good Enough Members and includes:
What it looks like when you’re managing someone else’s emotional experience
How to stop managing their emotions
How to allow people to feel what they’re feeling, safely
How to tune into your own feelings instead